Husband

I'm not sure what today's culture seems to think a husband is but the ancient word "husbandmen" literally means one who cultivates.

Cultivate: to prepare and work on land in order to raise crops; to promote the growth or development of

A husband is someone who is diligent in the planting & the tending of a family.  Into lives, into a vision, investing love in his wife. Building her, willing to be diligent in reaping the harvest of great relationships.

A husband knows the cycles of seasons & that time is the most important ingredient if he wants anything to grow.

Like the Great Husbandman God,

"who waits for the precious fruit of the earth, and has long patience for it. He cannot gather the fruit till it is ripe. He knows when we are spiritually ready to receive the blessing to our profit and His glory. Waiting in the sunshine of His love is what will ripen the soul for His blessing. Waiting under the cloud of trial, that breaks in showers of blessings, is as needful." -Streams in the Desert Devotional

You can't just pick up & leave, God calls you to tend to us, to wait it out, to work hard & wait for the harvest of something greater than a crop, you are called to work & plant people. We need you. Women & children are lost without husbands!

"If dad does not do his job, the whole social structure tries to make up the difference & it can but only in varying degrees.  Nothing replaces the work of a good, godly Father.  He's irreplaceable." -Mark Driscoll


Someone asked me what I am looking for in a husband.  I want to be nourished & cherished Eph 5:29, taken care of, given what I need to flourish. Looked after, considered, tended to, treated with kindness, respected. 

I'm looking for someone who sees the same value in me as Christ sees in His church. Someone who thinks I'm worth sacrificing for.  Someone who leads me. Someone who is wise & can stand for what he believes despite what everyone thinks. He must have this integrity. Eph 5:26.

Someone who loves me like he loves Christ. Loving me is his reflection of how he loves God. Don't abuse me, take advantage of me, or take me for granted. Christ holds his church close, I want to be someones priority. I don't wish to be ignored, or someone to be merely put up with. This man takes the initiative, just like Jesus initiated with his church. He cherished His church, He went to great lengths to pursue her. He still pursues, thoroughly enjoys us.... I want to be enjoyed, pursued, loved, cherished.   

I'm not looking for a perfect man, just a farmer.